It is usually best to assume people are crazy.
People see things in different ways, based on their different experiences and attitudes.
If you try to do things based on what you think will make them happy it may make you go insane.
Let me give you some examples:
1. When you keep quiet about what you really think to avoid upsetting the other person. Chances are you’ll end up even more upset than you could have ever made them.
2. When you try to say what you think they want to hear on a date. Chances are that you’ll end up censoring most of your conversation and sounding as dull as dishwater.
3. When you don’t approach someone in case they react badly. Chances are that you’ll never get the opportunity to meet them again and find out if you are destined to fall madly in love.
So don’t wait on what you think they want to hear, or the right time, or place.
Instead get used to going after what you want, saying what you feel and knowing that whilst it’s pretty hard to know what’s going on with someone else; you can work on knowing yourself.
Hayley Quinn is a leading london dating coach. See what she does at hayleyquinn.com or get in touch with her at Hayley@hayleyquinn.com
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- Mastering eye contact
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