“Why don’t men approach me?”

It has to be the most common female dating annoyance.

I can tell you now though it isn’t because he doesn’t fancy you, or because you always have rubbish luck with men.

Men will approach you; but you need to let him know it’s ok for him to say ‘hi’.

Think of it this way, in Victorian London if a woman wanted to get chatted up by a nice gentleman she would simply drop her handkerchief as he passed – giving the guy an excuse to be chivalrous (aka ‘the man’) and approach her.

What an awesome conversation starter!

Now I’m not saying invest in a hell of a lot of Kleenex to get out of your dating rut, but there is a lesson to be learned here about how you can encourage men to approach you.

You don’t have to chase him down the street but sometimes some encouragement whether that’s a prolonged gaze, a smile or asking for some directions from the cute guy (instead of your iPhone) can work wonders for your dating life.

And it’s also good to let the men of the world out there (who gripe just as much that women don’t want to be approached) know that even the most independent of women, wouldn’t mind a knight in shining armour every now and again.  

Hayley Quinn is a leading dating coach in London. See what she does at hayleyquinn.com or get in touch with her at Hayley@hayleyquinn.com

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