We have all been there, it’s ten to nine and you are all late, your child stands in the hallway and throws a paddy because they don’t want to go to school, but what are you meant to do?

When it comes to situations like this, you need to be able to properly read your child, are they just wanting to sit at home in front of the telly or is there an actual reason?

Here are some ideas on how to deal with it.

Are they saying they are feeling unwell?

If they really are unwell, can they tell you exactly what is wrong? Are there any symptoms? If they are adamant they are unwell, call their bluff and say you are going to the doctors. If they really are unwell, have you got any contingency plans for looking after them?

Talk to them

Your child might be unhappy at school, maybe because of bullying, maybe they are really struggling with their work. It’s important to listen carefully, school isn’t for everyone and if they really are unhappy and not just pulling your leg then there are ways to make this better for them. Keep in mind that some children might not know what is bothering them, or be able to articulate fully the issue, be patient.

Try not to get frustrated and lecture them

If they are genuinely worried or upset, then shouting at them telling them how important school is won’t make a jot of difference. It will just stop them coming to you with problems in the future.

Talk to their teacher

Your child's teacher may be aware of more than you are, a quick chat should tell you if they are happy once they are in school. If there are problems with another child, hopefully the teacher will be able to navigate you in the right direction.

Enforce the rules at home

If you panda to everything single thing your child says, they will take advantage. Let them know that even though there might be a problem, it’s best to deal with it head on. Don’t give them a day off unless there really is something to worry about.

Ask a friend for help

Sometimes your child will be happier talking to someone who isn’t you because they don’t want to upset you or they feel embarrassed. If there is someone who they get on well with see if they can get them talking.

If you talk to your child a lot and the environment at home is fairly relaxed then you should be able to roughly work out what’s wrong. If this continues and there is no change, it could be beneficial to take them to a child psychologist. Worst comes to the worst, maybe they need a school that suits them more academically or socially. Not every school is the same and not every child is the same.