Grieving mum says she wants daughters' bodies exhumed after Bexley Council tells her to remove grave decorations (From News Shopper)
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Grieving mum says she wants daughters' bodies exhumed after Bexley Council tells her to remove grave decorations
Amanda Hoadley at her daughter's joint grave at Hillview Cemetery with her only living daughter Charlotte.
A grieving mother says she wants to have her two dead daughter's bodies exhumed and cremated after being told to remove bunting, banners and toys from their joint grave by Bexley Council.
Amanda Hoadley, 39, of Exmouth Road, Welling, lost he oldest daughter Chloé in February 2007 after she died of Pneumococcal Meningitis as a result of medical negligence which was proved in a legal case.
Mrs Hoadley then fell pregnant with identical twins Amelia and Charlotte in 2011 and they were born 11 weeks premature on January 29 2012, both were deemed healthy at birth.
Amelia tragically died aged just 10-days-old on February 8 after contracting Klebsiella Septicaemia and that developed into Meningitis.
Both the girls are buried at Hillview Cemetery in Welling and Mrs Hoadley and her husband Andrew, 40, have decorated the grave with cards, bunting and decorations to mark their birthdays, Christmases and anniversaries ever since Chloé died.
Charlotte, the couple's only living child, was diagnosed with Diapelgia Cerebral Palsy at the end of July 2013.
Mrs Hoadley said: "The whole situation has made me feel sick.
"It has all gone on over the time of both the girl's anniversaries of when they died and it's just too much to take.
"I want to have their bodies exhumed and removed so I can get them cremated and have them at home with me.
"The girls died just a week apart and we got the letter from the council around the same time we were trying to grieve.
The family say have been decorating the graves since Christmas 2007 and never received any complaints.
Mrs Hoadley added: "Its clear the cemetery people have made notes about this.
"The council has no clear guidelines and their detailing of what can and cannot be put on the graves is inaccurate.
"It seems like they just pick and choose what they want to have on the graves." A spokesman for Bexley Council said: "We are deeply sorry for Mrs Hoadley’s losses and we totally understand her wish to want to commemorate important dates in her daughters’ lives.
"However, this needs to be done in a way that meets the wishes and expectations of other visitors to the cemetery.
"We want our cemeteries to be places where people can go for reflection and thought, without distraction and without others’ space being infringed upon.
"This means having to carefully balance the wishes of all visitors and grave owners, by observing some guidelines around grave memorabilia.
"We would like to work with Mrs Hoadley to reach a compromise on this very sensitive issue and are grateful that she has already removed the bunting."
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